The silver-haired 55-year-old suddenly trading in his life
in the suburbs for something he considers more exciting—his sensible car and wife
of 30 years for a Harley motorcycle and 21-year-old girlfriend—is certainly the
stereotypical image of midlife crisis.
Obviously every period of doubt or depression that occurs in
middle age is not connected with the panic about getting older. But how do you
know if what you are experiencing is actually the anxiety of midlife crisis or
not, especially in today's youth obsessed society?
I recently read an article about ten warning signs that say
you might be going through midlife crisis, and I'd like to share them with you.
1) You have a growing
sense of regret over unattained goals.
2) You have new
feelings of being self-conscious around more successful colleagues.
3) You now place a
new emphasis on remaining youthful when the effort previously seemed
unimportant.
4) You desire to
spend more time alone than previously, or with certain peers who could be
characterized as youthful or as those
who are comfortable in their own skin.
5) You have developed
a new tendency to abuse alcohol.
6) You place a new
importance on acquiring unusual or expensive items when the same purchases were
previously considered frivolous or impulsive.
7) You are
experiencing a sharp increase in self-criticism with a corresponding decline in
self-compassion.
8) You now obsess
over your physical appearance in areas where you previously didn't pay that
much attention because everything was okay.
9) You place an
unusual amount of pressure and stress on your children to excel in a variety of
fields.
10) You enter relationships
with younger partners than previously considered viable.
Even though midlife crisis is usually and traditionally
associated with middle-aged men, it certainly applies to women, too. Now, where
did that 25-year-old bronzed stud of a lifeguard disappear to (she asks as she
slowly rakes her gaze across the men on the beach)?
4 comments:
I can't say that I'm in a midlife crisis, I'm about the same. Except I'm on blood pressure medicine now, and the doctor put me on a diet. But that's more like an external force (except for the blood pressure) other than an internal one.
Janice
Great list! I keep saying that my husband's purchase of a camping van was a mid-life crisis was one I could enjoy, too.
Janice: True, that's basically a common/normal daily situation with physical health rather than a psychological concern.
Thanks for your comment.
Ilona: At midlife, a camper van is much better than a tent. :) Enjoy.
Thanks for your comment.
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